Emotional Intelligence Skills – Skill 2

Self-management

Once you are attuned to self-awareness, you can begin to practice self management. For example, if you’re in a situation or challenge and you don’t like what you’re feeling, or if you’re reacting negatively because your not using impulse control – self-management is required. More often than not, we want other people to change something because we think that will make us “feel” better emotions. The likelihood of others doing what we “think” they should is slim to none. We have to be the one to change.

Self-management is the ability to manage negative emotions and impulses in order to maintain personal peace and positive interpersonal relationships.

When you’re aware of yourself, you’ll know when you need to draw on other emotional intelligence competencies such as impulse control, flexibility, self actualization, or optimism to get the best outcomes.

Things to do: Ask a trusted friend to give you honest feedback. Also, utilize tools such as the PDP assessment or https://www.16personalities.com/ to learn more about your natural responses and cautions.